Dating dorky guys
Fun people make others feel comfortable and have a better grasp on how to read people’s signs and moods and can adjust themselves as needed.This makes the difference between someone who’s fun and someone who’s just a clown: fun people can find the line and know when things are appropriate or not while a clown tends to blunder on regardless of mood or intent.They weren’t “high-status males” with impressive jobs or flashy cars and fancy clothes.They didn’t have useful contacts for the social climbers or the money for those supposedly hypergamous women looking for the next level. who still managed to date sexy, intelligent, ambitious women. Being fun, being able to help someone enjoy themselves transcended looks and status.
This isn’t to say that it’s just a matter of telling a few jokes until you manage to laugh them into bed. Once I understood the appeal of fun, I began to recognize how it formed the underpinnings of everything I’d learned up to that point – and how much I had seen it in action over the years.Someone who is fun tends to be more confident in themselves – after all, it’s hard to be fun when you’re too worried about looking silly or acting childish.Fun people are also positive; excessively negative people suck the energy out of the room and kill the mood while positive people help energy.Take bantering and antagonistic flirting, for example.I enjoy bantering as a means of flirting because it meshes with my personality and it’s a method of screening for the type of women I am most attracted to.
Who knew that one day you could turn it around and use those same skills as a part of a way of getting dates?